Significant Other – TMI Tuesday – Valentines Day 2017

Significant Other

Are you “in love” with your significant other or are you simply compatible.
Scientist claim that being “in love” only last within the first six months of a relationship.

Scientists can claim what they want, and they often simply fabricate their findings to agree with a pre-determined hypothesis. I do understand that you simply would not achieve much at all if you were “in love” the whole time. Being “in love”, in my opinion, creates a type of madness in you. That said I think that putting a constraint of 6 months on it is short sighted. I was “in love” almost constantly with my significant other for about 2 years.- this was a long time, such a duration had not happened to me before. As that subsided I found thankfully that I also loved and cared about him deeply. It is very sad when you cease to be “in love” with a person and also find that concept was all there was to your relationship – you do not have any other kind of affectionate feelings towards them.

That being said I vacillate between being in and out of love with my man on a weekly basis. I think this is normal and healthy. But whether I am “in love” or not with him at a particular time he still remains my man, who comes from a similar place as I do.

Do you solve problems with your significant other (s.o.) or are you the real and only problem solver.
A relationship has a stronger bond when both people in the relationship work toward resolving issues whether it be with kids, finances, management of home, etc.

We do a lot of practical things together. The life we live means there are times when we are literally together 24/7. With some issues we have realised that one or the other is better equipped mentally and/or physically to solve it on their own. However, there are many times when we pool our resources to resolve a problem. I do agree this adds weight to your attachment.

If you live with your s.o. do you both do chores and have equal amount of chores in the household?
Research shows resentment mounts in couples who have an imbalance in household chore duties.

 With regards to this issue we are reasonably well balanced. We agreed at the start of our relationship that we would not nag the other in respect of chores. We decided that if you wanted something done that much you would do it yourself. That said I think we both do our share.

There will always be some chore division based on who goes out to work the most and sometimes also based on your sex.  This is not a popular angle to take and I do not mean a women should always do the cooking – my significant other cooks far more than me because he enjoys it and is exceptionally good at it. For instance if some wood needs cutting or something heavy lifted then often the man is better equipped to carry out the task. When my SO cooks, I will wash up. Its about sharing really.

Is your relationship meaningful to you for companionship or is it personally fulfilling?
Marriage in the U.S.A. has changed over time from being for survival (home, food), to companionate love during most of the 20th Century, to 1960s to present being about personal fulfillment.

My significant other is my companion, my partner, my lover and my best friend. This is my most fulfilling relationship to date; sexually; intellectually; and on a personal level. I do need that passion that can wane over time so a companionate relationship would not do for me. Though I recognise its worthy place in society and the family unit. My man and I have a sexual chemistry between us that keeps the passion alive. We also work at this element of our relationship with “date nights” etc. We talk a lot and share experiences constantly. The intimacy we share is separate from our sexual union, our minds are intimate. Though to sustain this I do need to have lots of sexual activity between us – whereas the acts themselves may not be intimate, by performing them we create a more insinuate bond between us.

Because of all of the above we have a very intense relationship. The intensity can explode in times of stress. These arguments can be extreme. Bu if you never experience demons you wont be equipped to recognise the angels…

The pictures that illustrates this TMI is very apposite. I do believe you make the correct choice in a partner when you are able to recognise in them compatible demons. When I first met my SO that feeling was overwhelming. It was instinctive. It is not something you experience often. When you do you know it.

In general do people think of you as a “couple” with your s.o. or do they connect with you individually just as much as a connecting with you as a couple. (Do you feel you’ve lost your individuality since being in a serious romantic relationship?)

We are both very individual in our separate ways. Since being a couple people have commented how suited we are from an objective standpoint. My children comment that we become more like each other every day. With that said I feel I’m able to express my individuality more than ever before, because he accepts me truly for who I am.

Bonus: You are invited to a large cocktail party at a fancy country club where you know no one. When you arrive, the room where the party is being held is already half full of people–naked people. How do you react when you enter the room?

I love being naked. Always have done. I would first check I was in the correct place. If I was I would quickly consume a large cocktail then find out where to put my clothes…

Which One? On TMI Tuesday, 7th February 2017

Which One? – Pick one and explain.

which oneWhich one? Would you rather have a real-life, actually working light saber or Wolverine’s claws?

I don’t know what a “light saber” is – should I? I have seen a couple of movies with Hugh Jackman as Wolverine and find him extremely attractive. I’d like his claws ON me. Hurting just enough to make me horny. Continue reading Which One? On TMI Tuesday, 7th February 2017

Alpha Male – misunderstood and misrepresented

Alpha male –

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If you have been reading my posts you are now aware of how I want my man to behave in the bedroom – or in our case, out of the bedroom – but how would I like him to behave in everyday life? Well, I need someone who won’t tolerate any nonsense from me. As a rule I try to get away with anything possible and have what I fondly describe as “princess syndrome.” Put simply this means I would rather have someone else do the mundane things on a day to day basis, even help me off with my boots and fluff around making sure all is good in my world. Continue reading Alpha Male – misunderstood and misrepresented

Gender Dysphoria – For the Love of Our Children


Gender Dysphoria

When I was ten I began to read widely. Anything to take me away from everyday life, even if only into my head. I devoured books that offered a reality unlike my own. The Tarzan series by Edgar Rice Burroughs was a favourite. I was taken with the backdrop and the characters. I fell in love with the books but I did not fall in love with Tarzan. No, I wanted to be Tarzan.  Jane was OK but that sissy life was not for me! I had a ripe imagination and began to play-act being just like him in the woods with whatever friends I could persuade to join me. Continue reading Gender Dysphoria – For the Love of Our Children

Sex is life – here at TMI Tuesday blog.

TMI Tuesday: December 13, 2016

Sex is Life

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Sex is Life

Have you ever tested someone’s love for you? What did you do? Did things turn out as you expected or hoped?

I seem to have done that my whole life. When very young I didn’t consciously know that I was doing it, but the pattern continued as I got older. Once I realised exactly what was happening the habit had become too ingrained to change. I push buttons to get a response or just push the person away – testing to see how much they can endure. Generally, they came back for more. My current man isn’t so placid though and will not tolerate any nonsense from me – can lead to some mega arguments. Continue reading Sex is life – here at TMI Tuesday blog.

Love Emotion Trust – TMI Tuesday Confessional

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Love Emotion Trust Matters

Love Emotion Trust on TMI Tuesday

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1.What would you do to leave a great impression with a person on your first date?

It is so long since I had a first date – When I was younger it wasn’t so much wanting to leave a good impression but rather to get them under my spell if I liked them enough. I would dress to impress, but tailor that to what I anticipated they would want to see me wear. Apart from that I employed the transparent technique, being open and honest. Can be rare so it usually seemed to work.

2.Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

I am not a romantic but always follow my heart or gut instinct. As far as my brain is concerned love over comes all – can’t say it’s always been the right thing to do. In hindsight, I do wish I had occasionally engaged my head in my relationship decisions. Continue reading Love Emotion Trust – TMI Tuesday Confessional

Boobday action – November 25th 2016

Boobs Matter
Boobs Matter

Boobday

Boobday 25th November 2016

Looking

Looking at pictures of boobs is a particular pleasure of mine. I don’t mind what size or shape but I must confess I do adore freckled breasts. I also particularly like breasts in various stages of undress – when you can see the outline of the boob, depicting its shape and the curve of the nipple. Breasts are indeed a wonderful creation.

Function

I also enjoy the rationale behind breasts. They are multi-functional. Naturally they are involved in child rearing but beyond that they exude comfort. The warmth and softness they offer. Their yielding nature. Of course, they are sexy too. They look sexy. When a womans breasts are touched in a certain way she feels sexy, and just having them makes me feel sexy! Continue reading Boobday action – November 25th 2016

Have you ever been in a situation where you find yourself fighting hard to get a relationship off the ground? Is it because of the lack of emotional compatibility?

Emotional Compatibility Matters

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Emotional compatibility is so important

Stimulation is so important within a relationship

Ok, have you ever been in a situation where you find yourself fighting hard to get a relationship off the ground? You are sure it has the makings of a meaningful partnership so you invest time, encouragement and most of all love in the person concerned. Your mind is set and any doubts that flutter past are waved away because you are convinced you are doing the right thing with the right person. And maybe for a short while you are, but what happens next confuses you because it is unexpected, it creeps up, slaps you in the face.

As even though in your heart you feel you love this man, you also know he is very lucky to have you loving him, because you believe in yourself and your capabilities. So, after a flying start – where affection and time are lavished on you – an empty vacuum opens up, you become bewildered as to why this could possibly happen. He still smiles at you in that way, wants to make love to you every night and checks your phone! Continue reading Emotional Compatibility Matters in a Long Term Relationship

Adult Photos – Be in the room with me

Adult photos

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Photos matter

Adult Photos.

When I was young, about fifteen, a model agency sent me along to a photographer to have some photos taken for my portfolio. I was very naïve and didn’t take any one with me. After the genuine shoot the photographer persuaded me to lower my top, then my bra. All the while snapping away with his camera. He assured me that none of these prints would include my breasts – they were just head and collar bone shots. Young and trusting – I believed him.  A few years later I was found in one of the soft porn magazines that was popular at that time. I was horrified. Today I think back and chuckle at the teenage me. What if social media or the World wide Web had been around in those days? It could have been a lot worse.

Social Media

Nowadays I enjoy seeing photos of my breasts and body in general but I must confess that social media is not my strong point. I have a Twitter account associated with this blog which I do keep up to date. A short while ago I opened a face book account but have not got very far with it. I guess I am a little old fashioned with regards to making “friends” that I am probably never going to meet. However, I know my blog would probably benefit from an associated Instagram account and have that on my “to do “list.

New to my Blog

The pictures in my gallery need to be updated to include more relevant adult photos of me. My man and I have been working with a still camera and a video camera whilst doing what comes naturally to us. From the last session, we found both the adult photos and the short videos, very authentic and I have included the photos as part of this post. Eventually I will copy them into my gallery and perhaps even get around to opening an Instagram account!

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Virgin at 41 update – Robs story continues…

Virgin at 41 update, from Robs diary entries. Robs true story continues here. I know he would appreciate any comments or advice.

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If you want to read the first post about him click here.

Virgin at 41 update

Dear diary,

That elusive shag has been right on my doorstep, under my nose for a good few months now. Right here in my village!

She latched onto me, whilst waiting for a Chinese a few months ago, couldn’t have been more blatant. I had just moved to the area, and I kinda wasn’t interested/ready, so grouchily I just batted her way.

I see her about now and again, sometimes blank her, sometimes stop and have awkward conversation, my body language closed, but her body language is very open, her eyes light up when she sees me. If I gave her even a modicum of encouragement she would be all over me like a cheap suit. Often I am driving down the road and see her out walking. I scotch down, head below the steering wheel like a headless driver, hoping she won’t see me.

Anyway, I was in my local shop tonight, and up she popped, I was a little less gruff, less awkward and she started talking. I wasn’t really listening but I offered her a lift to where ever she was going. She didn’t hesitate, nodding her head approvingly as loud, grungy, rock music roared from the stereo; although she was slightly unnerved by my aggressive driving. I dropped her off and she gave me her number straight off… guess it’s up to me now. Continue reading Virgin at 41 update – Robs story continues