Shame, TMI Tuesday 20th June 2017

SHAMEHow much can you bear?

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Shame on TMI Tuesday

Tell us a sexual thing/fantasy you would never want your friends to know you like or have done?

As far as most of my friends are concerned I wouldn’t like them to know that I get a kick out of bondage. Also one activity I have kept pretty quiet about over the years is that I once had the “golden shower” experience. You will be able to read about it sometime over the next few months on my sister blog which looks back 20 years ago to precisely the golden era. My friends would be horrified if I ever told them about that.  A couple of them even seemed shocked that I have enjoyed anal sex in the past.

 

Has anyone ever found an item of sexy underwear, a sex toy or perhaps a picture on your phone that embarrassed you?

When I was about 17 I was still living with my Mum. I used to often take my diary in the bathroom with me to write or read after I had bathed. One time I discovered that I had left it in there, in full view, for a whole day. I felt very embarrassed as even at that age my diaries were very explicit.  I was involved in my first sexual relationship. My boyfriend was very explorative where sex was concerned and the thought that my Mum or step father may have read about our exploits horrified me. I think I walked around blushing for the following week!

 

Do you have any fantasies you could never go through with because you think you would feel ashamed?

That’s a difficult one. I often fantasise about a MMF threesome but have not investigated it further – not because I may feel ashamed but because I am not sure in reality if the experience would be what I am after from sexual pleasure.

 

Have you ever felt shame after a sexual experience?

Yes, too often in the past. Let’s just say I was sexualised early in life and that seemed to mar many of my sexual relationships. After a short while, into a relationship, I would just start feeling dirty after any sex really. This reaction led to me feeling ashamed. I will be discussing this over on Before May Mattered, as at that time I began to recognise a pattern in my sexual behaviour and began to look for answers. It’s been a long haul though.

Incidentally I never felt any shame regarding the golden showers!

 

Bonus:  Share a recent non-sexual moment of SHAME

I really can’t think of any concrete recent moments of shame. Sometimes I can be pretty moody and because of that can behave badly at home. I have done that more than once over the last month. Afterwards I often feel a little embarrassed – I think 😉

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Multiple Wet Dreams – did you ever?

Multiple Wet Dreams – what a delight

I felt extremely horny. The date with Ashley had left me feeling as hot as hell. He was very good looking with such a fit body. Yet when it came down to sex he just could not deliver.  Now alone in my bed I licked my fingers and put my hands between my legs. Finding my clitoris I began to rhythmically rub it – thrusting my pelvis upwards. I had him in my mind’s eye, the way he looked, but now he was passionately thrusting his cock into me while staring assiduously into my eyes. They were shut as I began to cum. Bloody hell it was such a relief. I needed it so badly. Then something strange happened – I kept rubbing to gently complete the orgasm when I felt my body go into a second climatic spasm! I rolled along with it, eventually becoming still on my bed, exhausted. Continue reading Multiple Wet Dreams – did you ever?

Upfront and Personal – TMI Tuesday 13th June 2017

Upfront and Personal

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Upfront and Personal on TMI Tuesday

 

Would you take a course in advanced sex positions? Why?

That is an odd question. It has put all sorts of visuals into my head –  a room full of people trying to copy a position the teachers are demonstrating. I don’t think I would be interested in a course of advanced sexual positions. I simply like to get into a position that feels good or right at the time.

 

Did you orgasm?”
Women: Have you been asked this?

Continue reading Upfront and Personal – TMI Tuesday 13th June 2017

Sexual Behaviour is a Choice

 

Sexual Behaviour is a choice
Sexual Behaviour is a matter of choice

Over on my sister blog, Before May Mattered, I have just posted the next diary instalment. These diaries are real. They were written some 20 years ago, knowing a lot less than I do now. In some ways my thoughts and ideas were already formed. For instance, I was cynical about the way the world operated regarding politics and the reasons for war. Even at such a young age I was correct where these beliefs were concerned. Continue reading Sexual Behaviour is simply a matter of Choice – Living Forwards

Effeminate Men Rocked the World in the 70’s

Effeminate guys were all around in the 1970’s.

From a very young age I can remember TV shows were rife with effeminate men. The spectacle of Marc Bolan gyrating around the stage in pink silk trousers that showed the form of his penis was a familiar image on children’s television. This vision was glamorous and (apart from the contours of his cock) non-threatening. I grew up learning to love the look of such men- the way they moved and personified confidence; almost as if they were defying traditional sexual boundaries, but doing it in an incredibly sexy way.
Continue reading Effeminate Men Rocked the World in the 70’s

Digging Deep – TMI Tuesday 23rd May 2017 – Soul Searching

Digging Deep

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Digging deep into your soul

The last time you had sex, was it urgent or essential? Consider masturbation or sex with a partner.

Both urgent and essential. It was the night before last and we had been relaxing in the garden after a lovely sunny day. We both looked at each other and knew it was time for sex. We went indoors and he sat on the couch. I immediately got down on my knees in front of him and undid his flies. His cock was almost ready. I took my top off and caressed his cock with my breasts, then slipping it into my mouth. I began to tease the knob by flicking my tongue across the tip. He was now rock hard and came round behind me and spread my legs slightly. Pushing me face down on the sofa he thrust into me. Fucked me hard spanking the side of my arse at the same time. It was great!

What should you stop doing? Why? Continue reading Digging Deep – TMI Tuesday 23rd May 2017 – Soul Searching

Smells of Men. The Past Smells of Men. Before May Mattered

 

The Past Smells of Men

Past smells of men
Past smells of men

 

The sense of smell is an amazing thing.  I have always known it is one of my strongest senses and on occasions, where men are concerned, it has overridden my moral judgement. I believe some perfumes/colognes are laced with artificial pheromones which could be a reason for choosing to wear them. Personally I think there is nothing like the natural smell of a clean guy. Everybody has their own unique odour, which is masked by perfumes. Often it will be sometime before you actually know what your new lover really smells like. Continue reading Smells of Men. The Past Smells of Men. Before May Mattered

SWINGING FUN – Three is definitely not a crowd

Swinging Fun

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Wife Swap – Swinging Fun

Swinging Fun – Would you give it a try?

My sexual needs are somewhat deviant but I have never been involved in a threesome or group sexual activity. I suppose I have been a serial monogamist – somebody who jumps from one long-term monogamous relationship to another, usually making the break when sex within the pairing has become stale or boring. Towards the end of a lengthy relationship I would invariably become so horny I would cheat on my partner. The nearest I came to having sex with more than one person was sleeping with two men on the same day but at a different time – and unbeknown to each other.

The fact that I haven’t participated in a threesome does not mean that the idea doesn’t sexually excite me, it also intrigues me. Continue reading SWINGING FUN – Three is definitely not a crowd

Social Norms, times keep-a-changing’ on TMI Tuesday

Social Norms

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Does your workplace have a “casual Friday” or a day when you can dress down or out of uniform?

I work from home so every day is a casual dress day. I have been known to dress up during the later part of the day – pencil skirt, heels, stockings, black bra and tight white blouse. You get the picture. Pleases my man… Continue reading Social Norms, times keep-a-changing’ on TMI Tuesday

Anal Play, Anal Sex, Butt Plug Exploration

Anal Play and Penetration

Anal Play

 

There are two things I know about anal sex. The first is that nearly every male whether they are heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual, have a fascination with it. The second thing is that anybody who receives anal intercourse and anal play in general, should be careful regarding how the act is carried out, following necessary precautions or advice to ensure that your anal cavity is not harmed in anyway. Continue reading Anal Play, Anal Sex, Butt Plug Exploration