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Sexology ~ The Psychology of Sex ~ TMI Tuesday 22/08/2017

Sexology – the psychology of sex

Sexology ~ After this week’s TMI Tuesday you may say, “Get out of my head!”

Interestingly enough, when my man and I first met many years ago and had a short liaison – (you can read about how I met him and my sex life in general from 1997 here) – we would often say to each other “why are you always trying to get into my head”. We understood more about each other than either of us wanted to admit, so we used that phrase to try and not let our defenses down. Continue reading Sexology ~ The Psychology of Sex ~ TMI Tuesday 22/08/2017

Polyamorous Relationships ~ A moment in time or a lifetime?

Polyamorous relationships, good for the whole family?

Polyamorous relationships appear to be rising in popularity – they are trending and trendy.  The question is, can this lifestyle last a lifetime? Continue reading Polyamorous Relationships ~ A moment in time or a lifetime?

Smells of Men. The Past Smells of Men. Before May Mattered

 

The Past Smells of Men

Past smells of men
Past smells of men

 

The sense of smell is an amazing thing.  I have always known it is one of my strongest senses and on occasions, where men are concerned, it has overridden my moral judgement. I believe some perfumes/colognes are laced with artificial pheromones which could be a reason for choosing to wear them. Personally I think there is nothing like the natural smell of a clean guy. Everybody has their own unique odour, which is masked by perfumes. Often it will be sometime before you actually know what your new lover really smells like. Continue reading Smells of Men. The Past Smells of Men. Before May Mattered

To Hell with Love its This or That? On TMI Tuesday 11th April 2017

To Hell With Love Its This or That?

to hell with love
To HELL with LOVE

To Hell with Love its This or That on TMI Tuesday

Lights on or off?

Lights on for sure – I love seeing my mans body. I want to see his cock in all states of arousal. I want to see the pure sexual intensity he will have in his eyes. All these things are paramount in contributing to my sexual excitement.

Slow teasing or getting right to business?

Continue reading To Hell with Love its This or That? On TMI Tuesday 11th April 2017

Tell it like it is on TMI Tuesday 4th April 2017

TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesday – Tell It Like It Is.

TMI Tuesday – Elaborate on each in greater than 20 words but no more than 100 words.

Sex is _____ .

Sex is vital to my life. When I was younger I had problems with sex as I found it difficult to face up to what kind of sex I like. From the moment I did I felt more fulfilled and true to myself. Having regular sex helps keep you happy, healthy and strengthens your relationship with your partner. To achieve a good sex life – communication is key…

TMI Tuesday

Love is _____ .

Continue reading Tell it like it is on TMI Tuesday 4th April 2017

Queen of Hearts, the Magician, and the three card trick.

I’m the Queen of Hearts, he is the Magician

Queen of Hearts, the Magician, and the three card trick.
(Or the Story of Me and Him)

Three of Hearts
I opened the door, you stood there looking beautiful, all shiny and new
You looked at me, smiled, my heart swelled and I began to shine too
We talked about evolution, troubles in life, past loves and heartbreak
Together we were not sure what we had, but we recognised it wasn’t fake
I said see you soon, you walked away, in the blink of an eye, 17 years flew by.

Two of Hearts
We sat opposite, under the umbrella, laughed, brushed lips and drank wine
You were so sure, with me just glancing at you and thinking you were fine.
We held each other close, hearts beating fast, and danced with words of tomorrow
The reality proved different and showered us with pain and sorrow
I said see you soon, you walked away, in the tear from an eye, 3 years flew by

Ace of Hearts
Finally, the present has arrived wrapped up in love and delicious sin
Our life and hearts are overflowing with each day; our souls are akin
This time was always waiting, I believe that when I look at your face
Every day, every hour, every minute I spend with you are moments of Grace
Last thing in the eve, our bodies entwine, in the blink of an eye, night flies by Continue reading Queen of Hearts, the Magician, and the three card trick.

Significant Other – TMI Tuesday – Valentines Day 2017

Significant Other

Are you “in love” with your significant other or are you simply compatible.
Scientist claim that being “in love” only last within the first six months of a relationship.

Scientists can claim what they want, and they often simply fabricate their findings to agree with a pre-determined hypothesis. I do understand that you simply would not achieve much at all if you were “in love” the whole time. Being “in love”, in my opinion, creates a type of madness in you. That said I think that putting a constraint of 6 months on it is short sighted. I was “in love” almost constantly with my significant other for about 2 years.- this was a long time, such a duration had not happened to me before. As that subsided I found thankfully that I also loved and cared about him deeply. It is very sad when you cease to be “in love” with a person and also find that concept was all there was to your relationship – you do not have any other kind of affectionate feelings towards them.

That being said I vacillate between being in and out of love with my man on a weekly basis. I think this is normal and healthy. But whether I am “in love” or not with him at a particular time he still remains my man, who comes from a similar place as I do. Continue reading Significant Other – TMI Tuesday – Valentines Day 2017

Love Emotion Trust – TMI Tuesday Confessional

Boobs Matter
Love Emotion Trust Matters

Love Emotion Trust on TMI Tuesday

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1.What would you do to leave a great impression with a person on your first date?

It is so long since I had a first date – When I was younger it wasn’t so much wanting to leave a good impression but rather to get them under my spell if I liked them enough. I would dress to impress, but tailor that to what I anticipated they would want to see me wear. Apart from that I employed the transparent technique, being open and honest. Can be rare so it usually seemed to work.

2.Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

I am not a romantic but always follow my heart or gut instinct. As far as my brain is concerned love over comes all – can’t say it’s always been the right thing to do. In hindsight, I do wish I had occasionally engaged my head in my relationship decisions. Continue reading Love Emotion Trust – TMI Tuesday Confessional

Van Morrison – It’s All Right – Sex Matters

Van-the-Man

Sept 2016

Van Morrison has a way of singing that injects passion into your soul.  His song “It’s All Right” was one of the things that inspired me to put together this site. The song is real, the way he sings it is real. It makes me feel real

Van Morrison – It Matters to him

Van Morrison

The Lyrics

“It’s All Right”

If it matters how you do it,
And how you do it it’s your thing.
If it matters which way you go,
That’s your way to go.
And if you get it like that,
That’s the way you get it,
‘Cause you get it like that
When you want to be that way,
When you wanna be that way,
That’s the way you wanna be, see.
 
[Chorus:]
Hey! It’s all right.
Hey!
Yeah, its all right.
 
 
Now that you try to do to me
Out there a-walkin’ doesn’t matter, baby
Ain’t no question, no suggestion
Nothin’ in my mind that can’t be
Shut out when I want it to be
Nothin’ in yours that can’t be kept in
When you open it up and lose it
And nothin’ you can’t let out
If it’s got to be let out, just let it out
And don’t worry which way it goes.
 
[Chorus]
 
 
Now how can I tell you that I love you
How can I say so many words and so many syllables
In such a short space of time as this
Just turn it on and soak it in
And let it run off the walls
And let it down, keep it, and don’t lose it
Or confuse it
It’s just right there layin’ open
Completely open for everybody to see
Yeah, you got it.
 
[Chorus]

Continue reading Van Morrison – It’s All Right – Sex Matters

Virgin at 41 – can YOU imagine what it must feel like?

  WHAT MUST IT FEEL LIKE TO FIND YOURSELF A VIRGIN AT 41 YEARS OLD?

Being a virgin at 41 hurts
Being a virgin at 41 hurts

I am always very flattered when I receive mail after someone has read one of my posts. A few weeks ago Rob wrote very candidly to me about his past. With his consent I am now sharing his message with all of you.

Does sex matter? Reckon it does.

I am Rob, a 41-year-old guy and a VIRGIN – yes that’s right still a virgin at 41. There I said it took a little bit, (took some cajones though and mine are like beach balls at the moment).

It’s incredibly frustrating, lonely, crushing – the adjectives are truly endless. I have never been kissed or, touched. Certainly not shagged, how the fuck can you work with that?

This site drew me like a beacon, not because of what you do or are into, more about the CONTEXT, frank discussion without fear of embarrassment.

Imagine having your sexual desires, needs repressed, not explored for 25 + years?

Being a virgin at 41 is fucking painful indeed.

How and why I got to this point in my life is not totally clear but here’s my story. Continue reading Virgin at 41 – can YOU imagine what it must feel like?

No Charge – Poem for the ex who puts a cost on love

No Charge

I found myself in a relationship where I had given everything that was on my inside and it felt like little was being returned.  Read about it. So I moved on with an open mind but it soon became apparent that he was so un-evolved that he  could not see the bigger picture. Everything we shared, he wanted to keep. He wanted me to leave with nothing. This puzzled me as my view on love is that it should be a giving and understanding thing. Just because it did not work out should not mean his morals should slip. Love had existed between us once so why be selfish and immoral after?

Love. Was it real to him?

If the shoe had been on the other foot I would understand that, no matter how much it hurt,  if he needed to leave me to be happy then that is what must happen. He failed to recognise this,  so did he ever really love me?

No Charge
No Charge
No Charge – Poem for un-evolved ex.

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