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Giving a Good Handjob Requires Skill and Enthusiasm

When I was fourteen I discovered a stash of dirty magazines under my brother’s bed. He was older than me and went off to work at 7 am. In that precious hour before school, I sought to educate myself in lusty matters. One story I found fascinating involved a woman giving a man a handjob. It included such topics as how to rub the shaft and droplets of pre-cum. I wasn’t even sure if I knew what a shaft was.

Early days

The first time I tried it myself was at sixteen, over the park one evening with my first steady boyfriend. He was circumcised. I had no idea how to do it but he was always keen to tell me what felt good for him. He jacked his load into the bushes with a happy groan. My second boyfriend had a foreskin, so when I first began to handle his cock he exclaimed,

“Woah woah, not so rough.”

So I had to learn all over again. That’s when I realised not all penises respond to the same type of touch.

Being quite particular about who I had intercourse with, but still liking to get down and dirty as much as possible, giving a handjob seemed a good option. In fact the first time I ever slept with my man, I used my hand. That was twenty years ago but I still have a faint memory of the occasion. He loves my long fingers so even today he is a fan of my manual skills.

My hand – giving a good handjob requires skill, just like chess!

Handjob in the morning

Having just woken the other morning, sleepily I turned to lay on his shoulder and pushed my naked body up against his side. He was laying on his back and immediately began caressing my body. I have always had a fascination with his cock. It’s not been like that with previous partners so I revel in my obsession. My hand, very naturally, went down to find it. It was slightly bouncy and the skin along the shaft felt like silk on my palm. I sighed. His fingers came up to the back of my neck and began to touch the sensitive spot just below my hairline.

With my left hand I cupped his balls and squeezed ever so slightly. With my right I began to encircle the end of his not quite erect penis. He moaned in pleasure and pulled me closer. The skin was still covering the end of cock so I just ran my finger tips gently up and down its length. Now his dick was waking up.

Moving the quilt, so I had room to manoeuvre, I pushed down on his perineum whilst still lightly grasping his tightening testicles. With the other hand I angled his whole cock downwards, so the eye was looking straight ahead rather than up at him. This is a trick he taught me – he says it makes his orgasm stronger. I started to slowly pump the skin up and down. It moved easily over the head, now fully exposed.

Pleasure giving

Very gently I rubbed my fingertips around his bare knob giving more attention to the outside area where his skin is attached to his penis. It’s this area that he adores me to lick when giving him a blow job. At this point I will often not be able to control the urge to go under the covers and slip his beautiful cock in my mouth.

This time I didn’t. Instead I stepped up the intensity of my hold and pumped his cock with my hand, making sure to move it so that with each motion I was caressing the tip of his knob. As his breathing quickened – I could feel his enjoyment heightening. His cock was ready to explode as he dug his fingers into my back, muttering,

“Good bitch…”

Nearly there…

I know its time to speed up the pace and pressure. As I do this his body begins to move with me like he is fucking my hand. With a loud exclamation he fires his spunk all over my arm, his torso and the top sheet. Knowing him as I do I can feel there is more to come so continue with the friction whilst squeezing his balls once again. Sure enough more sperm shoots out his knob. Even when I am certain he has finished I continue stroking so as to complete his orgasm. This is something else he taught me as too many people just stop the hand job when the spunk first emits. He thrusts his hips up at my hand and we both collapse as he loudly murmurs,


One thing I have always liked about the moment when my man comes is that he makes no excuse for it. He is very proactive regarding his orgasms and often, after, we fall back onto the bed and laugh. Its a glorious moment.

Enthusiasm gets results

Performing a handjob is all about giving pleasure to the other person. If you are simply trying to get him off so that you can have your turn then it certainly wont feel the same for him. You need to participate too. Enthusiasm is everything.

Post Script –  After my man read through this post he was hard. He stayed put in the chair and ordered me to get down on my knees and suck his cock. Which I happily did 😉

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