If you have been reading my posts you are now aware of how I want my man to behave in the bedroom – or in our case, out of the bedroom – but how would I like him to behave in everyday life? Well, I need someone who won’t tolerate any nonsense from me. As a rule I try to get away with anything possible. Having what I fondly describe as “princess syndrome.” Put simply this means I would rather have someone else do the mundane things on a day to day basis, even help me off with my boots and fluff around making sure all is good in my world.
Confidence is Key
Now this may be what I want but it is obviously not always good for me. Within a short space of time the guy is eating from my hand and I have zero respect for him. I need a man who knows how to handle me and is not afraid to do so. Not a metrosexual, or one that I see as weak and unsure of his place in the world and the scheme of things. I require a confident, assertive man. It’s a case of need rather than want. I need this type of man or I will attempt to take advantage. Or take over the running of our relationship.
I was handed an alpha male at 16 but wasn’t sure how to behave. Or what to do with the feelings he evoked in me so I opted for a more secure bet. That was then. I don’t want the predictable option any more. We are only here once. Time is precious and I want someone exciting and real to spend my time with; someone who will challenge me and not always say yes; someone who knows how to deal with me. That is not to say I don’t want him to be caring, indeed to the contrary – I need to know that he cares about me on a daily basis otherwise it would be impossible for me to put my body under his control in the way I do.
On a more serious note, I think that many women are led to believe by peers and the media that they need a man who is passive and not forthright regarding their wants. In reality, if they had the chance to compare or think for themselves, they would prefer a man who is self assured, and direct. Honest about their wants and needs. Over the decades social engineering has led people to think it is wrong for men to be assertive and confident and they should rather exhibit more sensitive and compliant traits.
Indeed, women who choose alpha males are often stereotyped in films and television dramas as being less stable, more promiscuous and having hostile, sexist attitudes towards their fellow females. They are typically depicted as preferring short-term relationship and indulging frequent, uncommitted sexual activity. Obviously this is not so. Many of the most successful, long-term relationships are where the man and woman involved are content to portray their masculine and feminine roles and appreciate each other for these very traits. A study by sociologists at the University of Washington found that couples who follow traditional roles reported greater sexual frequency. A regular sex life is known to be healthy for your mind and body.
It does appear that in recent years men have been emasculated and are frequently confused as to the behaviour expected of them. At some point this century, assaulted by a politically correct herd, many decided it was time to stop being masculine and demonstrate their inner docility instead. Simply put, being a man has become unfashionable.
Don’t get me wrong, choice is key. Alpha, is about a man being assertive enough to choose to be himself, rather than his attitudes being dictated to by media forces.
My man is certainly an alpha but was confident enough to fulfill one of my fantasies by dressing up in stockings for me. He carried it off with an alpha male’s natural confidence and passion.
However, being overtly masculine is often viewed as sexist, so what remains of a man divested of his gender identity is arguably sexless.
It may be that many relationships would be more successful and fulfilling if the guy was able to engage his wants and needs without having to play to the false image society has recently created for him. One may argue that the good points of a beta male is that women no longer need to see the topless poster hanging in the locker room or hear the whistle from the labouring wolf. But I feel this comes at a cost. Instead of overtly showing their enthusiasm for the female form, many men resort to hidden stashes of hard-core internet porn. Men and women are gloriously different and this should be celebrated.
Alpha Male Truths
So what or who is the alpha male? A man who has confidence in his masculinity and presence is often referred to as an alpha. In my opinion a true alpha male has some or all of the following qualities.
He is in control of his character, in that he knows his strengths and recognises his weaknesses.
He is secure in his life and enjoys helping and educating others in order to empower. Not fearing competition.
His demeanour oozes confidence and optimism.
He continually seeks to improve his brain and understanding of the world around him.
He is very passionate in life, knows what he loves to do.
An Alpha male is a natural leader. He can be relied upon to provide direction when needed, as he has a natural ability to solve problems.
He understands that growth will happen when you step out of your comfort zone and he will readily do this. Also he will also encourage his woman to do the same. Giving her the space she requires and accepting her without judgement.
He displays upfront honesty about expectations. You will rarely have to worry about where you stand with him. He will be honest with you because he will expect the same in return.
The media will characterise him as:
A man who needs to gain as much power and control as he can and steal both from a woman.
A man who will deny his woman the chance to make her own decisions. Instead he will need to direct her life to increase his sense of status.
An aggressive and domineering man.
A man who is demanding and self-centered.
An impatient and bad listener.
Ruthless, intimidating, and confrontational.
Arrogant, stubborn and over opinionated.
If you consider the media’s continued efforts to shatter positive views regarding alpha males it becomes clear that social engineers have an agenda in which it has invested much time, effort and money over the years – to castrate the masculine male.
Devoid of alpha males, communities and families become easier to brainwash and control. The continual breakdown of the traditional family unit can perhaps be attributed to the emasculation of males and the consequent inability to supply the family with a traditional husband and father role. Rather than a family taking care of its own needs the state has to intervene more and more, exercising additional control over the children, defining and determining their place in the world and ensuring they never rise above that pre-ordained position or think for their selves.
It is time the alpha male is once again seen as a positive role model for young boys to look up to and for women to choose. It is time traditional values were recognised as a positive way to behave in society. As the proud norm and not as a dying, outmoded, diffident choice.
It is time to choose for ourselves, think for ourselves and stand up proudly for our families and our children.
First posted in 2017 – updated February 2021