Blogging Advice ~ Enjoy what you do

Blogging Advice ~ Enjoy what you do

I’ve heard of blogger burn out but never really experienced it. I’ve had moments where I haven’t wanted to be online for various reasons, so stayed off for a few day. As far as writers block is concerned I’ve been lucky as it has never really been an issue for me. You could say blogging has been my passion.

Changing Times

That is until the isolation process began.

When I was working and blogging I was always happy to come in from my job and settle down to a post or check out a meme. Now I don’t have a job. I can blog anytime. A mixture of confinement and freedom meant suddenly working on my site began to feel like a bit of a chore.

I certainly do not want my happy place to become a bore so I have started putting routines in place to break it up a little.

I don’t go online until at least 10am and then make sure I am off for some lunch and then again at 3pm when I go for a walk.

In the evening I allow myself another couple of hours but then close my wi-fi. Though I sometimes continue to write on the word-processor but without social media interrupting me.

I feel a little better about blogging again. But I suspect these feelings will be dependent on how long this bollocks goes on for.

My Blogging History

I bought my domain four years ago but didn’t really do much with it until the spring of 2017. At that time I found TMI Tuesday and participated along with my first two friends from the sex bogging world, Nero and SweetnDirty. We all answered our Tuesday questions and commented on each others posts. I enjoyed our early interaction but I must say I didn’t really know a whole larger community existed. No one reached out or pointed me in that direction.

Eventually I stumbled across it via Kilted Wookie. I followed him on twitter – well he posted images wearing a kilt, what else was I to do? I  noticed he entered Sinful Sunday so thought I would try too.

When I posted my first image Marie Rebel suggested I take a look at her meme Wicked Wednesday and so I began to get to know more about the community. I choose to interact with Sassy Cat and Masters’s Eye. Admiring SassyCat’s photos & podcasts and Eye’s writing resonated with me. I think I was particularly drawn to them because even though they were joining in with the community their work was very individual and stood out –  not simply  part of a crowd. They banged their own drums without having to be in a band. I liked that as I wanted to create a blogging space unique to me, to reflect the person I am and how I like to write

Eye, Marie and Cat encouraged me with this in different ways and very quickly my own blog became established.

I entered the smut marathon in 2018 (Elliott Henry supported me through the whole competition) – and went to Eroticon making some firm friends in Posy, Cousin Pons and SubMissy.

Co-hosting a meme, Food For Thought, with another blogging chum – Floss – also helped my blog grow.

But I wanted to take my site even further. Earn some money and perhaps write for other places but I didn’t know how. There were a handful of people in the community doing that regularly and it seemed you had to already be a part of it to become a bigger part of it. I had no idea who to approach or what to say or write when applying for a job.

I read the smut lancer and researched a lot on line for myself. Finally things began to fall into place and I began to write on and off my blog and get paid. It wasn’t a lot then, still isn’t now but it has grown slightly and I am very grateful.

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I recognized how difficult it had been to break into that bracket. But also I learned how good blogs and writers are sought after and understood there is plenty of room for us all.

I truly believe in karma – the idea that what you give to the universe will be returned to you – so I made a conscious decision to help and offer support and “how to” advice to talented, enthusiastic new sex bloggers.

So that is one of the things I have enjoyed doing when I can for over a year now. Initially assisting bloggers such as Purples Gem, Jupiter Grant, Deviant Succubus, Jae Lynn, Liz Black and more recently MLSlave – in their early days. All of them brilliant in what they do. And I have been lucky to have made a few friends along the way too.

And I am confident naming them here as at one time or another each of them have thanked me for my help. Which I appreciated. It has also been wonderful to see how those that have built up their sites are reaching out to help others too. That is community in action.

Blogging Advice

Thinking of  my chats with the newer bloggers above here’s some general pieces of advice I would give to other newbie bloggers –

  1. Make sure you consistently put out quality content. Even if that means only posting a couple of times a week. At the start it is important to build up a library of work that is unique to you. Purples Gem are an excellent example of a site that has done this.
  2. If you have an expertise in an area then insure you write for that too. Deviant Succubus has a wide resource on mental health topics which really helps to make her blog stand out.
  3. And if you have a particular kink that is very much a part of who you are make this your trade mark. You don’t have to go far on MlSlave blog to see this is exactly what she has effectively done.
  4. In the early days get involved in memes and read and comment on as many other blogs as you can. You will get to know other bloggers and they will get to know you too.  Think about joining competitions such as the smut marathon. All these things help raise your profile
  5. Try not to get embroiled in too much social media contact. Apart from promoting yourself and fellow bloggers plus friendly neutral banter. This will help your mental health too.
  6. Most importantly enjoy blogging. That will shine though in all you do on your site and light your way in the community. If you need a break for you own self care take some time off. We will all still be here when you return.
  7. Lastly, be nice 😉  Those you abuse on your way up will kick you on your way down. None of us are better than the other, so lets freely share our knowledge – bloggers unite, write and enjoy our time together in the blogging world.

This was written for the meme Sex Bloggers 4 Mental Health. Check it out below…

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28 thoughts on “Blogging Advice ~ Enjoy what you do

  1. I think this would be helpful for any new bloggers. It’s a good, condense and to the point post and what you’re saying here makes a lot of sense. I hadn’t realised I had hit the nail with my trademark! Thank you for saying that, means a lot. And thank you for supporting me. It’s been so helpful and I really appreciate it.

  2. May, as always your advice is succinct and absolutely spot on. You are a legend in the community and someone I have admired for a long time, your energy and your work are just amazing. I look forward to seeing where you take your blog in the future and with so many fascinating sites and characters mentioned, this is a post that lots of others will find very useful indeed.

    Stay safe and keeping enjoying life.

    Joanne x

  3. Brilliant advice here May. I would perhaps add – don’t be afraid to customise your site, go self hosted if you can, I lost a lot of work when wordpress suspended my site. Bsck up your site daily (updradt) and Google search how to guides,if you need to learn how to do something….oh and have fun.

    Take care

    Sweetgirl x

  4. You have given some excellent advice for everyone in our community.
    Thank you for including me in this post. I feel like a bit of a shit because I was more afraid of interacting of others back then. I kept an arms distance.
    I was so worried about you when you first burst onto the scene. You worked very hard, every chance you could you were out there. Offering help, encouraging others (like me) to keep going and to have faith in ourselves because you had faith in us as bloggers. You have earned it all and with a kind hand not by forcing, bullying others.
    Karma is a bitch and she wears high heel boots to kick ass.
    Thanks for always having my back and being an example that new bloggers can look up too.

  5. Thank you for the mention May! This is great advice and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I need to get myself back in gear, as I have been getting burnt out a lot.

  6. A wonderful post May. Great to read about how you started out. I was only thinking of Kilted Wookie the other day. I hope he’s well. And all the others we have known who no longer post. I think I first came across you on Sinful Sunday in 2017. What a happy day that was. Your warmth and support were there from the very start. And it is so good you have carried on in that vein, as you have shown in this post. As always, the tips and advice you give about blogging are excellent. I thoroughly agree with your lock down regime. I’m a bit all over the place at times but I do try to keep a bit of order amongst the current madness. xx

  7. A fantastic post, and a wonderful testament to community. And you play such a caring and supportive role in helping and advising new bloggers. I am certainly so grateful for your support and advice. I’m sorry to hear that you are jobless from this crazy situation. I love your plan to keep blogging fun. I know I definitely need to find a balance in my life so that I can have the time to start posting again, so hearing about what you’re doing is a great inspiration xx

  8. Fab post May, and you are indeed very community minded. I have really enjoyed our friendship and also the chance to work with you too. I love the way that you support and encourage others and notice what people do. Thank you so much for making me part of your post here ?

  9. I have indeed thanked you before, and I will thank you again. I’m extremely grateful for your help and support.

    I’ve mentioned this to others too: the online sex community is very vast and it is welcoming to newcomers, but you need to find the right way in, else it’s still a lonely place.

    And I agree with your advice: be kind to others. There’s no need for more arguments and strife in the world, especially not in a community which is as friendly as this one is.

    So yeah, thanks for everything, May, and I hope to pay it forward one day ?

  10. A wonderful post. If I may make a suggestion, why not provide links to those bloggers you highlight? Whenever I read a blog and they mention someone I don’t know, it’s a wonderful thing to be able to just click on their link and be taken to their blog. Then I can read a little or a lot about them. Sometimes I start to follow them.
    I really appreciate your blog and I think I follow almost everyone you highlighted. So this comment isn’t for me per se, but for others who may be unfamiliar with the quality bloggers you’ve mentioned. Stay well!!

    1. Agreed Michael – most who read this know who the bloggers are as I highlight all the bloggers regularly. But I am just realising maybe there are others that may benefit from a link – check back later!

  11. Absolutely true May, in everything you say and what you have done, you have always stayed true to you – what you enjoy and what you stand for.

    I think of you a very busy blogger, spreading yourself across many memes, helping with judging, and writing for other sites but along the way it’s been very evident that you are giving advice and supporting the less experienced, that’s what makes this a community. I apply high value to our friendship and regular interaction – thank you.

  12. This is such a great post, May, and I for one am so grateful you are part of this community, and for your writing. I always enjoy your stories! Thank you for mentioning me, AND for participating in Wicked Wednesday 🙂

    Rebel xox

    1. It was a great thing when you encouraged me to do WW as then I got really passionate about my fiction and entered the smut marathon – happy days!

  13. Really helpful post! Thank you so much for the insight and reminding me that all bloggers started out small, but started nonetheless 🙂

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