I’ve heard of blogger burn out but never really experienced it. I’ve had moments where I haven’t wanted to be online for various reasons, so stayed off for a few day. As far as writers block is concerned I’ve been lucky as it has never really been an issue for me. You could say blogging has been my passion.
That is until the isolation process began.
When I was working and blogging I was always happy to come in from my job and settle down to a post or check out a meme. Now I don’t have a job. I can blog anytime. A mixture of confinement and freedom meant suddenly working on my site began to feel like a bit of a chore.
I certainly do not want my happy place to become a bore so I have started putting routines in place to break it up a little.
I don’t go online until at least 10am and then make sure I am off for some lunch and then again at 3pm when I go for a walk.
In the evening I allow myself another couple of hours but then close my wi-fi. Though I sometimes continue to write on the word-processor but without social media interrupting me.
I feel a little better about blogging again. But I suspect these feelings will be dependent on how long this bollocks goes on for.
My Blogging History
I bought my domain four years ago but didn’t really do much with it until the spring of 2017. At that time I found TMI Tuesday and participated along with my first two friends from the sex bogging world, Nero and SweetnDirty. We all answered our Tuesday questions and commented on each others posts. I enjoyed our early interaction but I must say I didn’t really know a whole larger community existed. No one reached out or pointed me in that direction.
Eventually I stumbled across it via Kilted Wookie. I followed him on twitter – well he posted images wearing a kilt, what else was I to do? I noticed he entered Sinful Sunday so thought I would try too.
When I posted my first image Marie Rebel suggested I take a look at her meme Wicked Wednesday and so I began to get to know more about the community. I choose to interact with Sassy Cat and Masters’s Eye. Admiring SassyCat’s photos & podcasts and Eye’s writing resonated with me. I think I was particularly drawn to them because even though they were joining in with the community their work was very individual and stood out – not simply part of a crowd. They banged their own drums without having to be in a band. I liked that as I wanted to create a blogging space unique to me, to reflect the person I am and how I like to write
Eye, Marie and Cat encouraged me with this in different ways and very quickly my own blog became established.
Co-hosting a meme, Food For Thought, with another blogging chum – Floss – also helped my blog grow.
But I wanted to take my site even further. Earn some money and perhaps write for other places but I didn’t know how. There were a handful of people in the community doing that regularly and it seemed you had to already be a part of it to become a bigger part of it. I had no idea who to approach or what to say or write when applying for a job.
I read the smut lancer and researched a lot on line for myself. Finally things began to fall into place and I began to write on and off my blog and get paid. It wasn’t a lot then, still isn’t now but it has grown slightly and I am very grateful.
I recognized how difficult it had been to break into that bracket. But also I learned how good blogs and writers are sought after and understood there is plenty of room for us all.
I truly believe in karma – the idea that what you give to the universe will be returned to you – so I made a conscious decision to help and offer support and “how to” advice to talented, enthusiastic new sex bloggers.
So that is one of the things I have enjoyed doing when I can for over a year now. Initially assisting bloggers such as Purples Gem, Jupiter Grant, Deviant Succubus, Jae Lynn, Liz Black and more recently MLSlave – in their early days. All of them brilliant in what they do. And I have been lucky to have made a few friends along the way too.
And I am confident naming them here as at one time or another each of them have thanked me for my help. Which I appreciated. It has also been wonderful to see how those that have built up their sites are reaching out to help others too. That is community in action.
Thinking of my chats with the newer bloggers above here’s some general pieces of advice I would give to other newbie bloggers –
- Make sure you consistently put out quality content. Even if that means only posting a couple of times a week. At the start it is important to build up a library of work that is unique to you. Purples Gem are an excellent example of a site that has done this.
- If you have an expertise in an area then insure you write for that too. Deviant Succubus has a wide resource on mental health topics which really helps to make her blog stand out.
- And if you have a particular kink that is very much a part of who you are make this your trade mark. You don’t have to go far on MlSlave blog to see this is exactly what she has effectively done.
- In the early days get involved in memes and read and comment on as many other blogs as you can. You will get to know other bloggers and they will get to know you too. Think about joining competitions such as the smut marathon. All these things help raise your profile
- Try not to get embroiled in too much social media contact. Apart from promoting yourself and fellow bloggers plus friendly neutral banter. This will help your mental health too.
- Most importantly enjoy blogging. That will shine though in all you do on your site and light your way in the community. If you need a break for you own self care take some time off. We will all still be here when you return.
- Lastly, be nice 😉 Those you abuse on your way up will kick you on your way down. None of us are better than the other, so lets freely share our knowledge – bloggers unite, write and enjoy our time together in the blogging world.
This was written for the meme Sex Bloggers 4 Mental Health. Check it out below…