Ever since my site began I have exposed myself. In so many ways. Via images. Through my true life posts and also if you look hard enough within my fiction too.
A reader may feel a specific connection with a writer if very personal information is shared with them. I receive emails from some of my followers thanking me for inspiring them in some way or simply because they enjoy my content. That means a lot to me. And I think the reason these people bother to put pen to paper, or rather finger to keypad, is because they can see I am exposing myself in some way. Letting them see a little bit of my heart and soul, as well as my boobs and arse!
Yes, there is more than one way of exposing yourself…
For me to write is to expose. I can not do it any other way. It sometimes feels as if there is a direct honesty line from my inner self to the page. I remember when I first wrote the post about having been sexually abused as a child. As I pushed the publish button I felt scared but sooo liberated. Some of the shame I carry – because such a thing happened to me – was set free.
The support I received over that life event post encouraged me to share my adoption journey. And the funny thing was, even though I was exposing myself further it felt like the right thing to do. I didn’t feel vulnerable or naked. Instead I became stronger and more resilient.
True Date Night Stories
The first ever post on my blog was about a bondage session between my man and me. At the time I was brimming over with emotion and happiness at having found such a strong sexual connection with some one, I simply had to share the details. I also felt that perhaps my words may help others to understand that even latter in life you can pursue your kinks and have a great unconventional sex life. And the message I wanted to put across was that communication is key.
My date night tales receive some of the most views on this site. I think readers find them sexy but also they know I am exposing myself once again by honestly retelling the encounter.
Some of my best fiction has either a foot in reality or contain some of my own thoughts or ideas. I think this is probably true of most people who write. And this is once again due to exposing something you know, or have experienced, within a made-up plot strengthens the tale by way of including a piece of real life. Exposing a morsel of truth can turn an OK plot into a good one.
In the life and date night stories I expose my past and how I got to be the me of today. I also share a little of my heart. But in my articles I expose my soul. The things that I feel very strongly about. The things that are whirling around my head. Ideas that need to come out. Need to be purged. All this ends up in my articles. Occasionally heavy topics that I think have to be set in order. By writing them I expose my thought process and also it helps me manage the themes or ideas I am discussing. The process is cathartic and therapeutic too.
When I started this blog I never really thought about including images but I realised by exposing myself in this way I would draw people to the blog who would then hopefully read my words. And that’s what happened. But I also enjoyed seeing a sexy, quirky or sassy photo of myself. So the images became a bigger feature.
A short slideshow of images…
I have never felt compromised by exposing myself in all these different ways. Blogging has become a positive part of my life which I am glad I stumbled across and hopefully will continue for some years to come.