Kink one
Ever since I was a teenager it has been my desire to be physically hurt or, taken and used by someone else for their selfish gratification.
Kink two
Having an older brother meant that right from a very young age I was subjected to a lot of glam rock. The likes of Marc Bolan singing or Tim Curry gyrating, sealed the fate of one of my other main kinks – effeminate men – particularly men wearing skimpy ladies panties. Just writing about this has an impact on my cunt. I can feel it pulsing, dampening my own knickers. I find it an extreme turn on.
Kink three
It will also no surprise to my readers that I like to be tied up and spanked, whipped or belted.
Put all these three ideas together – use me – whip me and wear ladies panties while you are doing it and you have me worshiping at your feet.
Kinks can come true
My man wore my knickers and dressed up in hold-ups and thigh length boots. He topped it off with a tight waistcoat and I was putty in his hands as he tied me up and flogged me looking like he was about to set foot onto the set of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. Bliss. I wrote about the amazing experience for Swingtowns blog.
He’s got great legs so the holdups looked impressive. My lacy knickers were taut against his cock, the sight making my cunt contract.
It certainly has not always been as easy for me to express and indeed enjoy my kinks. My first boyfriend was very adventurous but without the chemistry, we just played at it really. After him, some of my partners had their own personal fetish they wanted to try out. But if I ever mentioned spanking or worse it was made clear they could never ever raise their hand and hurt a woman. Yawn!
I don’t need any excuses
I tend to get annoyed with certain so-called do-gooders who are quick to judge people who enjoy kink. Viewing it as a deviant practice. I didn’t like Fifty Shades. I started it but was not keen on the writing style so never finished the series. It’s my opinion that the author should have made more use of communication within the story. Anyhow, I think it may have ended with Mr Grey believing things that happened in his childhood made him have such kinky desires and he will try harder to be vanilla in the future. Propaganda. I am what I am and I don’t want or need any excuses.
My man
I did manage to find a kinky guy back in 1997 but he came with his own baggage. Though it was around this time I was lucky enough to become friends with my man. One of the first things he said to me was,
“You should stay away from me. I want to tie you up, whip and do bad things to you.”
I wondered if I had died and gone to heaven?
1997 was not our time but by having the kink conversation with him back then meant getting together five years ago we both knew what we wanted. To be fair we spent hours, maybe even days talking about it. That’s how it should be – communication, communication and still more communication.
Date nights
The first really kinky bondage scenario happened after these talks. I wrote about it right at the start of my blog. We try to have pre-arranged evenings where we spend time focusing on each other and doing the things that get us off sexually. I call them date-nights. After one of these nights, we will usually chat about what we enjoyed and what else we would like to try. Recently we have included sex toys and I have written up reviews about how we got on with the toy.
A big thank you to Mr Morsel for letting me use his image as my header.
This post was originally published July 2018 – it has been updated and a new image added for Tell Me About – Kink prompt…
First time visitor… nice exposition of the importance of communication, thanks! And before I forget, a man who – whether he’s Alpha or beta – is confident in panties is a creature to be cherished.
Oh yes I have to agree – and TY for visiting 😉
I always love reading about people who get to experience their kinks in a way that they enjoy, and I love even more that you have a partner that does that with you. Also, even though I haven’t met him, I have an image in my head of that scene, and my imagination made it HAWT, which I’m sure was even better in real life. 😉
My first few thoughts when reading this were ‘omg I love that kink too, and that one, and that one’ which made me smile because it’s always nice to see the kinks you enjoy being savoured by others too. Also you speak a lot of sense about not needing any excuses to enjoy your kinks, I am the way I am with mine too, and know amount of soul searching has every changed that.
Great post 🙂
A fascinating read May. I especially appreciated your comments on communication – although I agree – what’s not to love about a bloke in women’s underwear! As for the pain – mine is mostly self inflicted, but it’s not something I think I could express readily to a vanilla partner.
However, coming late to an understanding of my own kinkiness, one of the things I appreciate so much is the communication. When CM and I started to connect I was overwhelmed that we spent about 4 hours talking – just sitting at my dining room table drinking tea and talking. After years of shallow discussions with my ex, and memory based ones with mum I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. I have sometimes stated that we are not in a kink relationship, but I don’t think that’s true anymore, it’s simply that our kinkiness is expressed non-sexually. Certainly whatever this “thing” is that we have, it’s not a standard romance, nor is it purely a friendship. And I have hopes that one day I’ll get to see him in my corset… Indie xx
Love your comment Indie – I do so hope you get some pictures when that day arrives. What was wonderful about my man dressing up is he did it for me . He really is a man that loves being – well – manly – but knowing it is what i wanted he did it – and very finely too 😉 xx
This was a great opinion piece. I have similar fantasies to you also, as we know from our chats, my BDSM curious post and the fact that we BONDED over a story where the ‘antagonist’ (the wolf to my red riding hood heroine) dresses up in the godmother’s lingerie!! I agree, once you have welcomed kink into your life I think you’re unlikely to want to close the door on it again – the do gooders are welcome to find out what makes us as we are, but they’d better not try to change us all! Yes the Fifty Shades trilogy not only suffered from a weak writing style but exactly that mentality. The film made Mr Grey appear even more abusive than the books because he ploughs on with what he wants despite Anna frequently stating that it is not her ‘thing’.
Communication is indeed key but I notice one thing a lot now I know our blogging community better, a lot of folk are bad at voicing what they want with their partners (despite many of them writing great advice/instructive posts). I am sure they tell their partners what they DONT want but I’ve seen several remarking that they have trouble asking for what they DO want.
Finally I want to agree with you about how much I enjoy KP’s tweets about his instructions from his mistress regarding wearing ladies underwear. Not only does he look great in his ‘manties’ but I can applaud and agree with the frisson of wearing something as a ‘titillating secret’.
Oh yes the secret is such a hot thing – Thanks for such a comprehensive comment Posy x
Thanks CP – just an excuse to share my love of certain kinks really xx
A most enjoyable run down on your joy of kink May. CPxx