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More About May: Love Emotion Trust

Back when I first started blogging I was not very committed but did enjoy joining in with TMI Tuesday, alongside two friends – Nero Black and Pete Syms – who I met whilst commenting on their TMI posts. The meme asked some interesting questions, so I thought over the next few weeks I may update a few posts to current and republish…

Love Emotion Trust on TMI Tuesday

1.What would you do to leave a great impression with a person on your first date?

It is so long since I had a first date – When I was younger it wasn’t so much wanting to leave a good impression but rather to get them under my spell if I liked them enough. I would dress to impress, but tailor that to what I anticipated they would want to see me wear. Apart from that I employed the transparent technique, being open and honest. Can be rare, so it usually seemed to work.

2.Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

I am not a romantic but always follow my heart or gut instinct, which filters through to my brain and says – love overcomes all – can’t say it’s always been the right thing to do. In hindsight, I do wish I had occasionally engaged my head in my relationship decisions.

3.If your significant other told you to jump off a tall cliff and told you that you’ll land safely because there’s a net you can’t see yet, would you blindly trust your s.o. and jump?

A metaphorical question –  I’m not great on the old trust issue. I am slowly learning to trust my man but it’s been a long slow process for me. I am still at that stage where I wouldn’t be able to do as he requested without asking many questions first. Although, I like being told what to when engaging in a little sex action.

4.How do you support your significant other?

I try and make sure he has a release for his sexual desires.  I listen to his many opinions, and I love his many faces.

5.What types of things or gestures/acts make you feel loved?

A touch, a look. Telling me something about yourself I didn’t know. Letting me know on a regular basis why you think I am special.

6.What types of things or gestures/acts make you feel respected?

Someone giving their time to me and perhaps listening to what I am saying. Really listening.  You can’t buy time…

7.Can you have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy? Explain.

Yes, definitely. In fact I often separate the two, I enjoy the physical side of sex far more when emotional intimacy is removed. Sex for sex’s sake. It applies the other way round too – I need emotional intimacy and delight in it without any physical intimacy. Talking, listening, sharing intimate thoughts, ideas, memories and dreams. No need to touch.

Bonus: For Love Emotion Trust.

In 2016, what was your most conflicted emotional moment?

Having a physical accident whilst spending time at my dream vacation destination with my man. As a result, the joy of the sights and sounds of our holiday were marred by my sudden impairment.

In 2021, what was your most conflicted emotional moment?

Losing a dear home because it was making us sick. I knew it was right to leave, but I was awash with conflicting feelings because of all the happy memories.

Post updated for 2021 the original was published December 2016

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9 thoughts on “More About May: Love Emotion Trust”

  1. I think he listens to her, she is a ‘rare bird’ in interpersonal relationships.
    And it’s really worth it.
    It’s kind of like … Listening is so sexy!

  2. “I enjoy the physical side of sex far more when emotional intimacy is removed”
    I agree with this sentiment so much and thought I was broken because of it. Even married it still causes guilt and whatnot.
    These questions are really great. Perhaps we’ll see them renewed on 4 thoughts one day 🙂

    1. Mrs K we are so alike with our journeys – guilt about sex and because of that preferring not being intimate in sex and then feeling bad about that – but then i met my man and he said great – sex for sex sake – let’s do it – and i didnt feel guilty any more.
      The questions came from TMI Tuesday meme – it still runs – follow the link in the subtitle and u will see xx

  3. “I try and make sure he has a release for his sexual desires.”

    Thankyou! I’m not sure if most women understand that – my wife certainly doesn’t.
    If, as a couple, you used to enjoy playing a lot of tennis together when you first met then you can’t (or shouldn’t, in my opinion) just decide later you don’t want to play tennis anymore. And if there’s a reason you can’t play tennis anymore then there are still other options. You could watch him play tennis on his own, let him play tennis with someone else, or maybe just watch the tennis on ESPN together.

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