Being on the receiving end of oral sex has been a difficult journey for me. Content Notice – This is a very personal post which refers to sexual abuse. If you want to miss the tricky bits scroll down until you see this heading ~ SHAVING ~ where the post turns to lighter issues.
Marked by History
We are all dealt a hand in life and I honestly have actively tried not to let it ruin mine. Time is precious and life is a gift. To quote a fellow blogger, who seems to have disappeared – Life isn’t a fairy tale – you should try not to let a bad situation define you.
But such an awful experience would obviously leave some kind of mark on a person.
One of the scars is I do not like intimacy during sex. Meaning, I have to fuck, not make love. This took me a long time to learn but fortunately, I did, so can enjoy a fabulous sex life with my man. When we first chatted about this – at the start of our second incarnation – he saw it as a relief, took some pressure off not always having to make love when all you want to do is fuck the bitch. Consequently, this frees us up to be very dirty – sex is sex!
We are intimate on other occasions. Kissing, cuddles, sharing our everyday life – just very rarely whilst having sex. Though it can and does happen.
Another consequence of my childhood, which will not surprise you, is I find it extremely difficult to trust people. Also, I have a tendency to push them away if they get too close. As a young woman, I actively attempted to destroy my relationships.
My Oral Sex Problem
When it comes down to individual sexual acts there really does not appear to be a problem – except for cunnilingus – I do not like my cunt being over wet – it provokes an unwanted memory so I try and avoid this occurring whenever possible.
Over the years it has not been an easy task. Most of my men have very much wanted to please me – well in the early days! Thinking oral sex was the way to my heart. It is a difficult conversation to bring up that – yeah go ahead, but not too much saliva please – thank you very much.
Often I would try and avoid receiving oral sex altogether. Letting them know that I preferred fingers or cock. But many men seem to think they are gods gift when it comes to giving their woman head. This meant they would go down on me anyhow. It would not make me feel sexy at all.
In the end, I would need to tell them about my problem, as inconspicuously as possible. That has not been a simple task. Once told some got on board with it, for a while. But would you believe a few even forgot! Just thought I was going off sex with them. To be honest by that time I usually was, making an issue out of it is one sure way to put me off. Tired of trying to get them to understand I love sex, but due to my history, it needs to be in a certain way.
Skilled in the Oral Art
My man first ever gave me head years ago before he knew about my background. It was an incredible experience as he seemed to be able to do it without depositing ten ton of saliva on my slit. Also, I could tell he loved the act. He was doing it because it pleased him as well as hoping to please me. That was a big bonus and turn on. My orgasm was very intense and the whole experience stayed with me. Now, he knows about my past and still has a great style when his tongue gets down and dirty with my cunt.
Oral Sex & Shaving
Before my pubic hair was shaved I used to trim my triangle regularly. Being lucky in that the hair didn’t really stray far from that area so there was no cause to wax my bikini line.
I honestly didn’t have any problem with my pubic hair but both my man and I wanted to see what it would be like – bare. Having salon-phobia we knew the job would need to be completed at home. He volunteered. I have written about it before. It has continued to be a very popular post of mine –
Apart from the visual appeal – it seems my cunt has extremely fine features – it is also far more hygienic. Now I wouldn’t have it any other way…
The amusing thing about when he shaves my cunt is the mental visual picture. I am laying, mostly naked, legs spread, he is between them, glasses on, razor in hand, bowl with soap and water to one side. And we chat about all manner of things unrelated to anything physical or sexual. Usually about what we may have for dinner or topics about our work. Only very occasionally now do I get a little embarrassed but not as a general rule – it has just become one of our life-together-rituals. This is one of those times when we couldn’t get much more personal or intimate.
A fantastic advantage about being shaved is my cunt becomes ultra sensitive to any kind of stimulus. We occasionally have a date-night when it is newly smooth as he cannot resist it. Maybe he will whip me between my legs, always he will kiss and lick it. And in its nakedness, it does not need to be too moist for me to enjoy cunnilingus. Since having my cunt shaved, receiving oral sex has got even better for both of us.
But as with any sexual act, giving or receiving, communication is key. You won’t get what you want if they have no idea what that is.
This post, first published in 2018, has been re-mastered 😉 for the memes below. Click on the badges to see other posts about oral sex…