Porn ~ Different for everyone

Porn ~ Different for everyone

I suppose the question is what is porn? I believe it is probably an individual thing.

Introduction

Porn is short for pornography. I found this definition at Merriam Webste, online.

Definition of pornography

  1. the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement.
  2. material (such as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement.
  3. The depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction

And as Mrs Jones says, “I have read enough to know that many things can elicit sexual arousal in one person while seeming to be completely unsexual to another.”

Which means what is your porn may not be mine…

For this post I am going to mention my journey with porn and a few thoughts on the topic.

Early Years

As a young teen I had a fascination with porn magazines. This was in the early 80’s and I found a stash of them under my older brothers bed. I made it part of my education to read them before I went to school in the morning. He was up and gone to work at 7am. I learned so much from the stories. The phrases used and the types of sex, such as hand jobs and oral sex.

When I was fifteen I was baby sitting for a policeman and he had a whole stash of older porn magazines kept on top of a very tall cabinet – away from the prying eyes of his kids – in his living room. I systematically went through these each time I baby sat. I already knew certain stuff as unfortunately to a certain extent I was sexualised early. But I did find these magazines insightful and entertaining. Not only that as far as the older ones were concerned some of the images were very classy.

I noted that in general the penis was very large. And when I started handling my first main boyfriend’s cock I could see this was true. It was a few years later that I finally saw with my own eyes that in reality a man’s dick size varies greatly. But what they all had in common was the ability to leave a mess if you played with them!

Friends

My first boyfriend, Jim, and I were part of a peer group. There were about eight of us. Jim worked with men! And they lent him some of their vintage porno movies. Most were made in the 70’s.

This was great as we watched them in a group and started talking about sex in detail from a young age. Consequently I have never been scared of asking what I want sexually from a guy. But just because you ask does not mean you get.

These old porn movies were hilariously bad. But looking back I kind of liked them. They were not all about the act. Most had some shifty story entwined. To be honest the sex was not sexy at all. So they never turned me on. Nothing particularity enterprising happened. Mainly intercourse. The guy always seemed to come in her cunt. So not very enlightening but still it’s an experience I’m glad I had.

Side – When I first saw John Travolta swaggering down the street in Saturday Night Fever I was quite young. But to me the way he walked looked like sex.

Getting older and kinky

A movie that had a huge impact on my kinky mind – yet a kink I will never experience – is Going Places. A French film staring Gérard Depardieu . The two main characters are depraved in many ways. This was one of the reasons I was so taken with the movie. The way they treated women was abhorrent but compelling to watch. One scene that has been at the heart of many a sexual fantasy of mine is when one of them feasts on the breast milk of a young mother. I am not sure quite why I found this extremely hot. I have never been overly maternal but in my mind there is something incredibly sexy about an adult taking sustenance and pleasure from a breast simultaneously – my breast. So this type of porn worked for me but is certainly not mainstream.

Before my man and I got together my kinky side was not being nurtured so I often sought out online porn. Not very polite scenes of bondage, and imagine they were happening to me. Of course I would masturbate while watching. I was quite surprised how the online videos were so different to the vintage movies I had enjoyed. Extreme scenarios were/are played out and I have wondered if this fills the heads of young men – and perhaps women. Who then come to the sexual table with unrealistic ideas about sex. Of cource we don’t have to worry about that at the moment as the youngsters are not even allowed out much with each other. Let alone time to get down and dirty.

Busman’s Holiday

Nowadays I spend quite a bit of my life reading other erotic blogs and also writing erotica to earn a bit of money. Consequently, I view watching porn as a bit of a busman’s holiday. Although sometimes I watch something with my man. Or he watches a porno scene while I suck him off. That’s how sophisticated we are 😉

I have never really minded if partners have watched porn. I don’t think I should fulfill that desire in them myself. It may be that I would have liked to watch a particular clip with them. Or asked why they have hidden their porn watching from me. Because let’s be frank, a woman like me, can’t really get over moral on this topic 😉

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17 thoughts on “Porn ~ Different for everyone

  1. Great read May. Always interesting reading peoples journey with porn. It seems many of us of similar age had similar initial experiences. Others never came across it until much later. I always wonder seeing it a such young ages how it impacts our preferences and “kinks” later in life. If at all???

    1. interesting question – but i always wonder about the intrigue of some to explore and take advantage of such info once found – against those that wound shy away – maybe it is in out genes?

  2. “Or he watches a porno scene while I suck him off. That’s how sophisticated we are 😉 ”

    This literally made me laugh out loud!

    Love this candid walk down memory lane 🙂

  3. Reading about the pile of porn magazines you worked through, reminded me of looking at the middle spread of an adult magazine my father used to buy. I loved the middle spread, as it always showed nudity 😉
    ~ Marie xox

  4. I loved reading this May. Oh, those piles of magazines. I discovered a pile of Parades under my grandparent’s bed in the 60s. I relished them, though I did wonder what was between a woman’s legs as that bit was always airbrushed out.
    I am very keen on lactating porn and I was pleased to see that just a few clicks on your YouPorn site took me to it. How very convenient 🙂
    Just read MrsFever’s briliant piece on ‘nursing’. What a superb writer she is.

    1. Ah TY CP for reading – yes love Mrs Feve’s work and glad there is some lactating porn on you porn! Maybe I will write one myself lol
      May xx

  5. It is interesting to read about your experience with porn and also the ways you feel that shaped your thoughts. Interesting also that the things that turned you on were evident from the start and not mainstream. I think I understand what you found hot about the nursing but it’s not something I would especially want to try. Great post May. Missy x

    1. Thanks Missy – Porn has always lurked in my background – and i kinda think many people think – still – kink is bad so try and purge it from their thoughts
      May xx

  6. I totally dig Travolta’s swagger in that street scene but I found the movie to be deplorable. It was reflective of the times it was made in, but the truth{s} shown in that mirror were (are) pretty awful.

    I think ’70s porn is – as you say – NOT a turn-on. It’s somehow fascinating though, in a feathered-bangs nostalgic kind of way. *laugh*

    I had a friend once (now deceased, RIP) who was fascinated with the idea of nursing — the act of gaining sustenance from a breast, NOT the idea of working in a hospital!) and we used to discuss it at length. I can see how/why it’s a turn-on and also why it’s a taboo. I wrote about my own experience with erotic ‘nursing’ once (here, if you’re interested: https://mrsfever.com/2016/05/19/breasts-nursing-sex/ ); it’s not something I’ve done in a long time now, but I’d certainly be willing to if the circumstances were right. 🙂

  7. Refreshing observations , recollections , reflections. I delivered newspapers in Jr High. I got the papers in the back of the news agency. All the magazines that didn’t sell had their covers cut off to return for credits. But all of the rest of a magazine was intact n free for the taking for “home” work. Memories of the old styles of “adult” photos and stories which we could add our fantasies to parallel to your experience, May.

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