Room 101 first appeared in the book 1984 by George Orwell. It’s an extremely insightful novel. The room was said to contain a person’s greatest fear. The popular TV show of the same name asked people to consign their pet hates to Room 101.
- What are your main hates and/or fears – sex wise or other – that you would like banished from your life forever?
- Explain why/how these became your hates or fears.
Hates and Fears
I must say I am finding my questions quite difficult and I certainly have had to think about them for a while.
I have a few petty hates –
- Clusters, are not visually appealing to me and looking at them I become nauseous. This is called Trypophobia. Posy suffers from it too and mentions it in her post.
- Narrow minded people. Just get a life.
- Spiders. And not for the reason you think. I loved them until something happened that I will address in another post one day, maybe 😉
But I am going to discuss fears here rather than hates. I don’t like to think about hating. Loving is much more preferable.
I have many petty fears including –
- Wasps, because I have been stung twice.
- Boats, because I get dreadful sea sickness so feel out of control.
- The big wheel, I get motion sickness too 😉
Fears can change
In the book 1984 Winston is asked:
“Have you ever seen a rat leap through the air? They will leap onto your face and bore straight into it. Sometimes they attack your eyes first.”
Now that sounds pretty terrifying. Having no experience of rats when I read the book in my late teens I added them to my fears. Why wouldn’t I? This description of them is horrifying. But when one of my kids was young we had pet rats and they could be very sweet. So my fear of rats disappeared.
What I am saying is fears change with life experience. What you fear today, you may not fear tomorrow.
And lets remember what you fear you may also enjoy too. Let me explain.
Anal and Pain
Sexually I fear anal sex. My main concern is that the delicate skin will be damaged. However, this has not always been a worry to me. In the past I participated in this activity frequently. Then one time I got hurt and suffered in that area for a while. Because of this incident the fear has stayed with me. Consequently my man and I only participate in anal activity on rare occasions.
Physically I fear pain. When I was younger I would have poo-pooed this notion. But a few years ago I experienced extreme nerve pain for the first time. I was beside myself. Now thinking back to this time my heart beats faster and my mouth dries a little. I know I am scared of it.
Yet sexually I enjoy a certain amount of pain. Spanking, whipping, slapping. In fact at times I crave a good spanking. But pain that is not being inflicted on me by another; pain that my body may experience all by itself – scares me.
Dementia for Room 101
But my biggest fear and the one I want to send to Room 101, is losing my mind. More specifically dementia. Eye’s post on the subject touched my heart. I fear not being able to recognise those I know and being a burden on those I love.
The fact that people suffering with dementia do not always realise they have any issues is even more scary to me. I like to know everything. Be in control at all times – mind wise.
Of course this would not have been a fear of mine twenty tears ago. The young hardly ever fear growing old and the consequences that go with that.
So with this thought on my mind let me say that sometimes it is a great thing to live in the present and enjoy it for the gift it is…