TMI Tuesday: December 13, 2016
Sex is Life
Have you ever tested someone’s love for you? What did you do? Did things turn out as you expected or hoped?
I seem to have done that my whole life. When very young I didn’t consciously know that I was doing it, but the pattern continued as I got older. Once I realised exactly what was happening the habit had become too ingrained to change. I push buttons to get a response or just push the person away – testing to see how much they can endure. Generally, they came back for more. My current man isn’t so placid though and will not tolerate any nonsense from me – can lead to some mega arguments.
Select the answer that best fits your experience. I have dated:
a. all the wrong people
b. romantic companions that were mostly a good fit for me.
c. people that were perfect fits–loves at first sight
d. not all that much, I mainly have had a lot of long term relationships
My answer is d) – I mainly have had a lot of long term relationships. Although among these companions only a few were a good fit for me. The others kept persisting until I became romantically involved with them and then usually the sex was disastrous as they didn’t share the same “needs” as me!
Online dating: What is your success rate? What do you consider success?
I got into online dating accidentally over 10 years ago. The result of which broke up my family and turned into one relationship I regret. I expect if you were canny enough to weed out the dregs who worm their way into your heart from afar and find a compatible match, then that could be considered a success. It did not happen like that for me and I won’t be trying a second time.
What sexual thing do you do most often that you could commit to doing every day?
Most days I give my man a blowjob . I love how it feels for me and really find it groovy how much he enjoys it. I vary my technique so neither of us see it as repetitive. Some days I just use my mouth, no hands. On others, I concentrate on licking the end very gently and just putting pressure around his knob with my lips. He loves me to cup his balls or rub my breasts over his cock. I cannot see that doing this every day would be a problem for me.
What are your thoughts on love and lust?
Ah I love being in lust. That feeling where you cannot wait to see that person, or touch them. Trying to prolong every moment with them, and masturbating about them whenever you can. If you are lucky then you fall in love with someone you are in lust with. That’s an incredible feeling as the lust just seems to intensify.
Bonus: Are you searching for love or are you searching for attention?
I have always been searching for love. The love that incorporates being with someone who has similar ideas as you. Sexual compatibility is extremely important for lasting love. As far as attention is concerned – I am always looking for attention.
Just read the answers from Sincerely Yours and need to amend my comment that I am always seeking attention. Attention from someone you don’t care about is definitely unwanted – it feels like a harsh spotlight is beaming down on you.