Sexology ~ The Psychology of Sex

There is a great meme that has been going years called Too Much Information Tuesday. This post was originally posted for that meme in 2017, but I have read through and updated it in places. I found it was still very relevant, so have republished. TMI is still around today. You will find the link below…

Sex and Intimacy

Sexology ~ After this week’s TMI Tuesday you may say, “Get out of my head!”

Interestingly enough, when my man and I first met many years ago and had a short liaison, we would often say to each other “why are you always trying to get into my head”. We understood more about each other than either of us wanted to admit, so we used that phrase to try and not let our defences down.

Here we go with the question…

For you, can sex be separated from love?

Yes, nearly always for me. I do not equate sex with love, or love with sex. I love my man, but that is not the reason I want to have sex with him. If I try and tie the two together, then I have a sexual anxiety problem. And, I don’t want that to happen.

Can sex be separated from caring?

Yes, sex can be separated from caring on many occasions. Except, if you mean I care whether I am going to be fucked hard and fast – then I do! The other time I put caring and sex together is when I don’t feel horny, but my man does. Then I enjoy giving him pleasure, because I care.

Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?

For me, sex and intimacy are separate issues, both important but not necessarily occurring together. I want sex, but not with the pressure of having to be intimate during the act. Sex for sex’s sake is my motto. We are intimate at other times, it’s part of the way we live.

Physical closeness is very important and go hand in hand with sex. I enjoy that physical nearness. It helps keep the closeness and intimacy between us in our day-to-day life. All seems right in my world when my man and I have been physical. To quote Nero from his blog recently,

“She’d made me cum, I’d made her cum, and all was good in the world again.”

Sex isn’t secondary to commitment – They are both important, but it depends on the couple as to how each is prioritised.

Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?

We have both been pretty bad at finding a compatible sexual partner before. Though he has had way more sexual relationships than me…

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?

With him having the history of being a tart I sometimes think he would be the one to want more partners or cheat – but we are content with each other so that I am hoping the bond we have will provide all the stimulation and engagement we both need, even as we get older… But if either of us got to a place where we need more to be fulfilled, I trust that we would talk to each other about it.

6 thoughts on “Sexology ~ The Psychology of Sex”

  1. I think it’s common to crave sex, and intimacy separately. Sometimes you just need to scratch an itch, and others, you need to feel cherished. Rarely, are those desires happening at the same time. lol

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