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Sexual Expression ~ If it Matters how you do it

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Sexual Expression

2019 – The good, the bad and the sexy

The year is not quite over so hopefully there will be a little more of the good and the sexy to come.

Ups and Downs

I have certainly had my personal ups and down during 2019 and truly hope 2020 will prove better on that front. I will add the sex-blogging community have been extremely supportive and I love being part of it.


My reasons for blogging are still very much in line with those I wrote about below in 2018.  But this year I managed to earn a little money from  writing on and off my blog.

At first I decided to go down this road for purely financial gains. But I have really enjoyed seeing my work highlighted else where. I get a buzz from it, for sure.

My work with me page highlights some of the pieces and places that feature my work.

Another thing I’ve learned is that I find my personal writing very cathartic. It certainly seems to straighten out my thoughts and helps me view things more clearly.

My Memes

A big addition  has been getting involved in organsing memes. At the beginning of the year I began helping Sassy Cat with the admin as she set up her Sex Bloggers for Mental Health meme. I continue to assist in this way. Also Floss and I now co-host Food for Thought and we have been thrilled how so many bloggers have supported us.


If you want to find out more about me and my blog carry on reading down. Starting it was definitely one of the best decisions I have made. My writing skills have grown and as the amount and type of stories I have written have expanded. I’ve tagged them all so my readers can quickly find what they like. I have ALL FICTION and that is further split into FLASH, which are 500 words or under and would you believe ROMANCE too 😉 I have even got a spot for those fiction stories that are based on truth.

My Man and Me

I have also realised that a little bit of a forte for me is writing about my man and me and our sex life. I have being doing that since I started the blog and these posts get a lot of views.

To finish I would like to thank all of my followers, readers and subscribers. I am so very proud of Sex Matters but would never have got this far in the blogging world without you. xx

May More – October 2019 

Why am I writing a sex blog? 2018

The impetus behind my blog has changed since I began in 2016. Initially, as you can read below, I started writing because I wanted to put across that you owe it to yourself and who ever you love to be true to your sexual needs.

I still believe that and with this, in mind, I write many posts about my man and me – our sexual relationship and life together. As time has gone on I have also shared very personal issues regarding my past and present.

I attempt to put across balanced opinion posts,  regarding things that influence us everyday, lifestyle issues really. Funnily enough one of my most popular posts is in this category – censorship.

Writing, writing and more writing- I realised I just loved it so started creating fiction stories just shy of a year ago. It fast became a passion of mine and is something I can see me doing FOREVER.

I get great satisfaction from illustrating posts with provocative images of myself. It is fun and, according to my readers, adds to my blog.

So I publish photos, sexy fiction, sexy non-fiction plus more serious articles.  Similar to a magazine site. Something for every sexual deviant 😉 and a little more.

One thing that is very important to me as a blogger is our community. I enjoy being an active member and participating in various meme’s. As well as sharing, commenting and reading a variety of different bloggers work.

Attending Eroticon earlier this year was a highlight for me and could not have been achieved without the generosity of the Eroticon team, for providing me with a free ticket, and Eye for selflessly letting me share her hotel room. I won’t forget.

So as we come towards the end of another blogging year I have to shout about how important I think it is to blog. Put your writing, ideas and views out there. It possibly helps you as the blogger and can influence and assist your reader. If you are reading this and have not blogged before I would say GO FOR IT…

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2016Sexual Expression Matters

My name is May. I am writing this blog to demonstrate that at any age we can choose how we express ourselves sexually. If sex matters to you then you have an obligation to yourself, and the person you love, to let it out.

Sexual Expression


It seems very obvious that now, more than ever, older people seem confused about sexual expression. Women appear worried about truthfully exposing that side to men. Men are concerned that if they reveal their inner sexual needs they will be seen as anti-feminist. Society via media is emasculating men by blurring the lines between the sexes. As a result, women are fed up of having to be in control of their relationship on a day to day basis, as well as not getting satisfied in the bedroom. How do I know this? I speak to many people of both sexes and ages and open my eyes to the media onslaught brainwashing individuals on a daily basis. With regards to sexual behaviour between two consenting adults, I believe nothing need be taboo. I understand that the actions of one couple are not necessarily what another couple would favour but nobody should feel inhibited in expressing their wants. I advocate that sexual expression should be liberating, intense and loving but perhaps not all at the same time. A lot of unhappiness is caused by inadequate, incompatible sexual partnerships.

My Experience

It took me a long time to meet someone I could fulfill my carnal desires with. I spent years, like many others, feeling guilty about what I found arousing. I tried to hide it as I was told by more than one partner that I was sordid or degenerate. This indeed made me feel dirty. But I remained unfulfilled sexually. As a consequence I became frustrated with other areas of my life too – as I lacked a medium in which to express my desires. Now that I have a man who is totally accepting and encouraging in every area of my life, I feel a dark cloud has been lifted and my potential in other areas can be realised. I am no longer stifled. The nature of our sex life may seem harsh and decadent to some but I can assure you that as a result of what we do we have an extraordinarily strong bond. By sharing such passionate times, other aspects of our relationship have become solid and rewarding. I am not suggesting that everyone should involve themselves in sex-making as we do; it wouldn’t suit all couples. I do think that people should question their lives if they feel they are unable to play out their desires honestly with the person they love.

My Blog

All posts on this blog are true, without fabrication, unless otherwise stated. They may not be as outrageous in content as some other sex blogs on the web but they ARE real, they are written about me and my man. It could easily be you and your partner. I love to write about topical issues too. I am not always politically correct and am certainly not bound by social conventions. Enjoy – live, love, laugh – May xx

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