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To all the men I’ve loved before ~ Musical Tribute

The soundtrack of my life. Goodness, that would take a while. So here we have the songs I dedicate to all the men I’ve loved before.

To all the men I’ve loved before

I think it is best to proceed in chronological order. Also I will show only the lines from the lyrics that actually apply to the men I loved (love).


My uncle Tony was not an uncle but rather my Mum’s cousin. I have written much about him on my blog as he was one of two men in my family who acted how a father should.  As my dad did a dreadful job.

I have such high respect for this true gentle man that he is one of only a few people – on my blog – who have not received a name change. That would feel sacrilegious, such was my love for him.

This song is one of his own choosing.


Sung by The Carpenters and written by Neil Sedaka and Phil Cody.

The lyrics really tell Tony’s story and he would often put the record on when I was staying with him. Let’s remember he was gay – which was not tolerated when he was a young man. His life was not easy. Then he married one of my Mum’s friends and her and their baby died. Once more he was alone.

There was a man, a lonely man
Who lost his love through his indifference
A heart that cared, that went unchecked
Until it died in his silence
And solitaire’s the only game in town
Every road that takes him, takes him down
And by himself, it’s easy to pretend
He’ll never love again


Who remembers those heady days of teenage love? For me that equates to Jim and I in the back of his Ford Capri fucking our cares away. He was a good guy and because we did so much together – travelled and grew up –  our three and a half year relationship always felt a lot longer.

Paradise By The Dashboard Lights

Sung by MeatLoaf and written by Jim Steinman.

Well I remember every little thing
As if it happened only yesterday
Parking by the lake and there was not another car in sight

And now our bodies are oh so close and tight
It never felt so good, it never felt so right
And we’re glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
Glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
C’mon hold on tight

Ain’t no doubt about it we were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen and we were barely dressed

Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
I can see paradise by the dashboard light


I grew up with Vic. Best friends and then later – after Jim – we became lovers. Returning to being the best of friends again when we split up. I always miss Vic. He has a special place in my heart for the connection we once had.

Every Day

Sung by Slade and written by Noddy Holder.

I am a huge fan of Slade. I was too young to see them on their first “outing” but was lucky enough to go to a few of their gigs on their second time around in the 80’s.

When I was going out with Vic he worked in a recording studio and was often needed over night. On occasions  he would just be coming home and I would be going off to work or Uni. Looking back I think his job was one of the reasons we split.

This song by Slade was one we both would leave out for the other to listen to when we were apart.

Everyday when I’m away
I’m thinking of you
Everyone can carry on
Except for we two.

And you know that our love
And you know that I
You know that our love won’t die.

And it won’t even show
And no-one will know

My Man

I do have a few songs I associate with my man as we had a brief dalliance back in the late 90’s before getting together six years ago. However, we actually  met up again and fell in love nine years ago. But at that time I would not leave my then partner as my children were still at home and I consider parenting the most important job in the world. Don’t get me wrong I wanted us to be together more than anything but decided we would simply have to wait. And over the next few years we only saw each other a few times.

For You

Sung and written by Bruce Springsteen.

I was never a Bruce fan and then someone game me a ticket to see him and I was literally bowled over. This song is an album track and if you want to listen to it – it is truly fabulous – then go to you tube and put in – For You Bruce Hammersmith. That is the best version.

This song is seen from my man’s perspective not mine. The situation I put him in by asking him wait. He had come “for me” – and I wasn’t free. But whilst apart I sent him cards and stuff.  It just made him miss me more. Anyhow here are some of the lyrics.

Princess cards she sends me with her regards
Oh, barroom eyes shine vacancy, to see her you gotta look hard
Wounded deep in battle, I stand stuffed like some soldier undaunted
To her Cheshire smile, I’ll stand on file, she’s all I ever wanted

I came for you, for you, I came for you
But you did not need my urgency
I came for you, for you, I came for you
But your life was one long emergency

But I could give it all to you now, if only you could ask
Oh, and don’t call for your surgeon, even he says it’s too late
It’s not your lungs this time, it’s your heart that holds your fate

And your strength is devastating in the face of all these odds
Remember how I kept you waiting when it was my turn to be the God?

We were both hitchhikers but you had your ear tuned to the roar
Of some metal-tempered engine on an alien, distant shore
So you left to find a better reason than the one we were living for
And it’s not that nursery mouth that I came back for
It’s not the way you’re stretched out on the floor
‘Cause I’ve broken all your windows and I’ve rammed through all your doors
And who am I to ask you to lick my sores?
And you should know that’s true

I came for you, for you, I came for you

There we have the soundtrack of my life, to all the men I’ve loved before 😉

To all the men I’ve loved before ~ Musical Tribute Soundtrack

15 thoughts on “To all the men I’ve loved before ~ Musical Tribute”

  1. This is lovely and appropriate. I, like a lot of men, also have a list of break-up songs, some of which one can’t listen to without experiencing those emotions x

  2. This is beautifully crafted, and as others have said the respect you show and the importance of these men in your lives really shines through. The song choices become particularly poignant when you pinpoint which lyrics apply.
    (my heart’s breaking a little for Uncle Tony)

  3. This is such a wonderful post and captures the emotions, meaning, and impact people, these men you’ve loved, have. I like how you portray it here with the aid of the songs and lyrics.

  4. An interesting selection of lyrics and beautiful memories.. I loved your idea too, for the men you’ve loved/love. The first one for your uncle, I could have cried…

    Take care

    Sweet x

  5. I’m glad that you finally have your man. The fact that he was willing to wait shows just how much he loves you. It’s very heart warming and to see it in his perspective gives even more emotion.

  6. A lovely tribute May. You can feel the love you have/had for these men through the songs. I must say the one that really got me was Tony’s as I have a wonderful relationship with my dad.

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